I’ve always worried about everything. I don’t know exactly when being caught up with the future became a natural state for me, but eventually it did. Every now and then I found myself living in the past, wondering how things would’ve been if I would have made different choices.
I was never truly present, and thinking about what might happen in the future consumed my energy and sucked the joy out of each moment. I wasn’t able to appreciate my everyday life.
Why do I believe enjoying each moment is a learnable skill and the most required to get what you want in life?
1.The future doesn’t exist
Everyone wants to be happy, but no matter how many people you ask what happiness really means, you’ll get just as many different definitions,
Many of us, including me in a not too distant past think: “one day when this and that happens, I will finally be happy”， like happiness lies only in the future.
In our imagination the future is always different – at its worst it can make you worry but it can also get you fired up. Both states are just a product of your imagination; they don’t really exist and can only bring fear or disappointment.In fact, we are complete, and all we need and can have in life is in the here and now, because nothing else really exists.
2.What we worry about probably won’t happen
I realize that most of the things I worried about rarely actually happened. And if they did the outcome was usually positive or wasn’t nearly as bad as I’d imagined. Worrying is just an unnecessary habit which only drains your life energy.
When you start worrying, ask yourself a few questions: Is it actually possible for the worst-case scenario to happen? If yes, is it really life-threatening? What am I missing in the present moment?
Focus on what you HAVE, instead of focusing on what you think is missing.
3.If you can’t appreciate now you won’t appreciate tomorrow
If you won’t learn to be happy now, you’ll be unhappy in the future. Thinking about the future is a hard habit to break. Without working on self-development you may struggle to achieve happiness, even if you get what you think you want out of life.
4.With a free mind you make better decisions
When you live in the present moment you can listen deeper to your inner self. Your mind becomes clear and you can focus on solutions much better than when your brained is clouded by fear. You can focus on the life situations and issues you currently face the way they really are, not on potential scenarios that might happen.
We don’t need to worry about avoiding bad things. Most problems only require common sense, and other problems that we have no influence over aren’t worth worrying about anyway. The more energy you save giving your mind a rest, the better outcome you’ll have if one of those bad scenarios really comes true.